February is all about love – romantic love, long-term partnership, and the kind of everyday love
that shows up in patience, humor, and understanding. Which is why this feels like the perfect
month to talk about Rich Pink and Roxanne Emery Pink of @ADHD_Love.
If you haven’t come across them yet, you’re in for a treat. Roxanne is a blue-haired, songwriting,
late-diagnosed ADHDer. Rich is her hyper-organized, bank-manager husband. One late night in
2021, they posted a hilarious and painfully relatable TikTok about life with ADHD – and woke
up to millions of views overnight.
Since then, they’ve become an internet sensation, sharing their signature blend of humor,
honesty, and heart through viral videos, a podcast, and two books.
I recently read both Dirty Laundry and Small Talk, and I’m completely smitten with this
quirky English millennial couple. Each book is written in two voices, with every chapter split
between Roxanne’s perspective and Rich’s – a format that feels especially fitting for a month
centered on relationships and understanding one another.
In Dirty Laundry, they unpack the core symptoms of ADHD and explore how each one has
impacted their relationship. In Small Talk, they turn inward, tackling the negative self-beliefs
and internalized shame that so many ADHDers carry. Together, the books tell a love story that
isn’t glossy or idealized – but real, messy, funny, and deeply human.
With refreshing candor, Rich and Rox share what it actually looks like to navigate love when one
partner has ADHD and the other doesn’t. Their work is equal parts educational, validating, and
laugh-out-loud entertaining – a powerful reminder that compassion and curiosity can transform
not just relationships, but lives.
Why I Recommend Them to My Patients
As a psychiatrist who works with many adults navigating ADHD – often alongside anxiety,
depression, or trauma – I’m always looking for resources that don’t just educate, but also validate
and uplift. Rich and Rox do both beautifully.
Their work isn’t about quick “ADHD tips and tricks.” It’s about dismantling shame, reframing
self-worth, and showing what love and partnership actually look like in real life. They speak
openly about the misunderstandings, emotional labor, and vulnerabilities that ADHD can bring
into relationships—while also celebrating the creativity, humor, and resilience of the ADHD
brain.
For my patients, this kind of representation is invaluable. It’s one thing for me to explain that
ADHD isn’t laziness or a character flaw. It’s another thing entirely to see two real people model
what thriving – with ADHD and in love – can look like.
This Valentine’s season, their work feels like an important reminder: relationships don’t have to
be perfect to be meaningful. They just need empathy, communication, and room for growth. Rich
and Rox show that self-acceptance is possible – even after years of internalized criticism – and
that love can deepen when partners truly try to understand each other.
If you or someone you love is living with ADHD, I think you’ll find their books, podcast, and
videos both relatable and encouraging. They’re a reminder that you can have ADHD—and still
build a joyful, connected, and deeply loving life.
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